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Having expectations is human. Whether you have expectations about how your child “should” behave in public, how your spouse “should” respond to you in moments of emotional need, or even expectations for how you “should” be able to transition seamlessly into motherhood, whilst simultaneously continuing your career: each person holds expectations. How do you know you have an unmet or...[ read more ]

Transitions Life is full of transitions and most of the time we are ready to be on the other side of the transitions, “are we there yet?” This road can be difficult, troublesome and stressful. When will we reach the peak of the mountain? When will we reach the destination; maps keeps redirecting me and adding to my time. Although...[ read more ]

[embed]https://www.instagram.com/p/CKeaGP9nuOh/[/embed] Having expectations is human. Whether you have expectations about how your child “should” behave in public, how your spouse “should” respond to you in moments of emotional need, or even expectations for how you “should” be able to transition seamlessly into motherhood, whilst simultaneously continuing your career: each person holds expectations. How do you know you have an unmet...[ read more ]

[embed]https://www.instagram.com/p/CL5CJL5nk4v/[/embed] Say it louder for the people in the back! You are worthy of love no matter how you are performing. Did you yell at your kid this morning? Did you start up a fight with your spouse? Have you been grumpy or angry or sad or just plain not fun to be around? Have you dropped the ball, missed...[ read more ]

[embed]https://www.instagram.com/p/CKwVi5rnBiK/[/embed] Trauma leaves scarring that can stay with us our entire life. That’s why it is called Trauma: “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” Part of the human experience is encountering various degrees of trauma, but when it is left unattended to, it can show up unexpectedly—even in our parenting. And why would’t it? Having a baby or toddler scream...[ read more ]

These days, Ataraxis Counseling has seen more families and couples than usual. It's not completely surprising since so many of us are staying home and have been spending excess time with family members. When couples are used to having time apart from one another and their children, it is expected to encounter some road blocks. Have you examined these three...[ read more ]

“Childbirth is an intimate and complex transaction whose topic is physiological and whose language is culture” (Jordan, 1982, p. 182). For centuries and across diverse cultures, pregnancy has been sacred. It's a time of gathering around an expectant mother to nurture her and celebrate new life. In India, mothers are showered with specific foods for her and her baby's health...[ read more ]

Here’s a helpful visual of what healthy boundaries, or healthy interdependency on others, can look like. In maintaining a healthy interdependency, there is an exchanging of one another’s emotional resources. There is a mindful engagement between individuals about what each person needs, and a flow that allows reliance and generosity from each individual. Left of that displays the overly independent...[ read more ]

For better or worse. Those words seem easy to say at the time, but when worse gets really bad, many couples are ready to throw in the towel. That’s because they didn’t seek help in time and let things get out of hand.The Stigma of CounselingIt can be hard to make the decision to go to couples counseling because it...[ read more ]

Relationships can only be healthy when both people have the space to be themselves and maintain their personal integrity. Sadly, many people find themselves in relationships, romantic and otherwise, with people who do not respect boundaries and feel entitled to have their needs met regardless of the other person’s. These people most likely grew up in households that were unsafe...[ read more ]